When you think about blended things, orgasms probably don’t come to mind (unless you really enjoy Frappuccinos, like, a lot). The phrase “blended orgasm” isn’t very descriptive, so allow me to break it down for you.
A blended orgasm combines two of the most common types of orgasms for people with vulvas and vaginas: Clitoral and G-spot. The G-spot is controversial because some people insist that it doesn’t exist. Personally, I believe that at least most people with vaginas have G-spots, so the rest of this blog is going to rest on that belief.
As you might have guessed, you’ll have to stimulate both the G-spot and the clitoris simultaneously to achieve a blended orgasm. Something you might not know about the clitoris is that it’s actually not just a little nub. In fact, it’s shaped like a wishbone, and the two arms extend back around the vaginal opening. So the clitoris can be stimulated internally, although it’s not as easy as stimulating it externally. It’s possible to have a blended orgasm through internal stimulation alone, but it really depends on your anatomy.
Using the right tools for the job is one way to make your blended orgasm possible. Personally, I like G-spot dildos or vibrators, and a separate clitoral vibrator. It allows you to have a lot of control over your stimulation, something that rabbit-style vibrators don’t provide.
Most G-spots respond really well to pressure, vibration, or a combination of the two. That’s why G-spot vibrators are curved. They can have a gentle curve, like Pearl2, or a more pronounced curve, like the Jopen Key Comet Wand II. G-spot dildos are also popular because not everyone needs internal vibration to get off. Look for something with a curved or bulbous tip made out of silicone, glass, or steel.
Some people find just inserting and clenching around a G-spot dildo or vibrator is enough to stimulate them, whereas others prefer thrusts or a gentle rocking motion. Experiment and see what works for you and your body. Sometimes it’s easier if you have a partner handy to help you, but don’t worry – this isn’t necessarily a two person job!
Frankly, the G-spot is the trickier part of the blended orgasm equation. Once you find something that works well for your G-spot, it should be easy to combine that with clitoral stimulation.
You can use another sex toy, your hands, or a partner’s help. I’ve found that one of the easiest adult toys to use in combination with G-spot dildos or vibrators is the Eroscillator. While it may not be much to look at, its long handle and narrow attachments make it really easy to use in tandem with other toys.
When you’re stimulating your G-spot, there’s a chance you might experience ejaculation (some people call it squirting). It’s not a given, but it is possible. In order to make yourself feel a little more comfortable, empty your bladder before you begin working on your orgasm. When you get close to an orgasm with G-spot stimulation, you can often feel like you really need to pee. If you’ve already done it, you can relax, knowing that it’s just the orgasm. You might notice that a blended orgasm lasts longer, feels more intense, or causes your vaginal muscles to contract. That’s all part of the experience.
What if it didn’t work? If you had a good time, it wasn’t a wasted effort. Hopefully, you learned something about your body. Sometimes these things take practice. Don’t be discouraged if you have a hard time stimulating your G-spot at first… Just enjoy the ride.